Okay, I see you guys have no sympathy for Chris Brown…I agree…no excuse.  And we’ll have to wait and see whether or not Rhianna forgives him and takes him back.  But what I’m asking is why so many women do end up taking men back who mistreat them. Now, obviously I’m talking about dating situations here, because once a couple is married that changes the equation. Then you are bound to one another and, I believe, required by God to try and work things out if you can.

What I need is someone to help me explain why we (women) so often keep ‘going back for more?” Is it because we’re afraid of being alone and we figure even a guy who mistreats us is better than no guy at all?  Or is it, as I said, simply because we love them?  I have women all the time tell me they do it…and every time I can see that they KNOW it’s wrong, they just can’t help it.  WHY IS THAT?

One of the stories I put in the entertainment segment of my show this week was about the singer Rhianna, who’s recovering from her alleged beating by boyfriend Chris Brown. My story was about what her dad had to say about it all—basically that he “hoped” she would now  move on—presumably from Chris Brown.

I know that alot of people probably heard that and thought “Of course she’ll move on!! Did you see what he (allegedly) did to her FACE??!!”  But the thing is…it wouldn’t surprise me one bit to hear that the couple is back together…that he’s in counseling…that she’s forgiven him…and helping him work thru his “issues.”  Nope, wouldn’t surprise me one bit.

This week, I did a bunch of media interviews for my book “Left at the Altar.”  (that’s me with former CNN anchor Daryn Kagan after our interview for her website http://darynkagan.com.) One thing every interviewer picked up on and wanted to talk about was the part where I confess that after being left at the altar I actually TOOK HIM BACK for a while. After all that heartbreak and humiliation I actually wanted him back.  And that’s why it wouldn’t suprise me at all if Rhianna does the same. 

How do I explain it? Simple. I loved him.

So, I’m wondering if there are others out there who understand what I did and why I did it.  Did somebody hurt you deeply and come back wanting forgiveness and back in your life? Did you let him/her? Could you help me explain to people who don’t quite get it…why?

(BTW Daryn says she’ll have the interview posted on Monday so I hope you’ll check it out. You’ll love her website!)

I host a t.v. show in Atlanta called Hot Topics and one of the hottest topics on the web this week was the story of the woman in Britain who found out her husband was divorcing her on FACEBOOK! It was bad enough that he hadn’t bothered to tell her in person, but what made it even worse was that people all over the world were hearing about it before she did!

I so relate to the public humiliating that poor woman felt. Not only is she dealing with the sad end of her marriage but now she has to do it with all the world watching—and commenting on it. That’s got to hurt.
Now, granted, we don’t have all the facts here. This apparently wasn’t an ideal marriage. He was arrested a few months ago for assaulting her, he claims, after he found out she was seeing another man. There was obviously trouble there.

So, I’m wondering: what if she did cheat? Does that give him the right to publicly humiliate her like that? Does it make him more sympathetic knowing that she may have driven him to it? Or are some things best kept between a husband and a wife—and the divorce attorneys?